It’s no secret that I think the Glee Series is one of the best thing since the creation of Cell Phones. And I consider Season Three to be my favorite, and one of the key moments in Season Three has got to be Kurt Hummel’s performance of ‘I Am Greatest Star’. Permit me to Geek Out-or ‘Gleek Out’. You see, Kurt was auditioning for Tony, the male lead role of the West Side Story , a role he needed to up his credits to get into his dream school. And for his audition, he performed an amazing rendition of Barbra Streisand’s ‘I Am The Greatest Star’s from the Musical Funny Girl, with amazing flexibility, I didn’t know he had as well as performing dexterously with daggers. You’ld think he got the role. He didn’t. Why? He was considered too effeminate for the role!!! Not minding, he was light on his feet, had an amazing countertenor and the acting skills to boot. Skills his boyfriend didn’t show, though he got the role. Yea, you got that right his boyfriend. Proving the problem wasn’t his sexuality but rather his feminity. Or in the words of Coach Beiste ”He was too much of a lady.”
Now, that I have chewed out your ear, let’s get to it. Effeminophobia is merely the hartred and fear of effeminate men. What really got me inspired for this post was watching Richard Akuson’s vlog- Get Pink With Richard. In a particular vlog, he talked about accepting his feminity and his experience when people- other guys try to rough-shake him and he would go for a more ‘demure’ approach. And I just thought ‘Hold the phone, I can so relate to this.”
Growing up, I have dealt with alotta insinuations about my sexuality based merely on my more feminine mannerisms, right from the age five, I remember being called a ‘Woman-wrapper’ and honestly that is quite great compared to other names I have been called. I can also remember, while I was in Benin Republic, and boys played this mean joke on me and would call me ‘Babe’ and when the girls were going to play soccer they told the lecturer to include me in the list of girls. (Even though I don’t play soccer) It may have been a joke but it hurt, like really hurt. But what really hurt may have been a friend of Mine referring to me as an ‘Honorary Girl’.And it made me wonder, why is being called a girl supposed to be hurtful?
Then I remember, an old magazine I read once that, women are celebrated for being manly, and men are being booed for being feminine, that it probably steems from the belief that women are a weaker sex, and should be praised for being more like the stronger sex, whilst men whom emulate the weaker sex are shunned cause they are seemingly going backward. This is why I believe in Gender Equality and not just Feminism. But before this post get too long, I think reintroductions are due.
My name is Vincent Desmond, I am 17 years Old, And I am effeminate.
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